Alison Jill

relationship coach

guiding singles and couples
to transform painful patterns
into fulfilling connection

$30 holiday discount on Human Design readings through December 31

Relationships are the crux of
human experience...

So why is it that when we care deeply, things can feel so hard?Why do the same hurts resurface, even when we’re trying to do things differently?Some of us leave, hoping next time will be different, only to face the ache of loneliness again.Some of us stay, choosing comfort over aliveness, quietly longing for more connection, more depth, more truth.The connection you desire isn’t a fantasy.It’s possible, and I can support you as you uncover a new way forward.

What You'll Experience In Our Work Together

Attuned, Empathetic Guidance

We all want to be seen and understood.
Being attuned to and empathized with are crucial to
understanding each other, fostering vulnerability
and creating safety.
I will bring the qualities of attunement and empathy
to all of our interactions.
We will also practice them relationally, so
your relationships become deeply connected,
even during inevitable conflict.

Engaging your Body

Wisdom lives in how our body communicates with us.
Our emotions, past traumas, nervous system wiring, and our
Yes and No
can come in the form of sensations, alerting us
to how we're responding and what we need.
We also have access to creative, powerful energy
that we can be disconnected from,
inhibiting pleasure and connection with our aliveness.
I will assist you in tuning into
your body,
discovering the goldmine of information stored there,
so your body can speak your truth to you
and start to rewire to the safe home it's meant, and you need it, to be.

Being you, resiliently

Growing into new versions of ourselves happens when
we can allow who we are and what is present for us,
to be witnessed without shame.
Change happens not from suppression, sacrificing
and compromising things important to us, but
embracing what is natural
and then consciously choosing how to work with it.
We will practice being lovingly resilient (self-regulating) with ourselves,
and how to ask for and offer co-regulation in relationship.

Clarity

We will explore, together, the multitude of reasons
why you operate the way you uniquely do,
giving compassionate insight into your magnificent complexity.
We may peer through the lens of any of the following -
attachment theory, social conditioning, familial modeling,
and various personaility assessments if desired
(Human Design, Enneagram, Myer's Briggs, etc) -
to help gain awareness about why you are the way you are.
We are always evolving and none of these things define our entirety.
They can, though, help shed light on part of what makes us tick,
so we make more informed decisions in relationship.

"Alison holds a compassionate presence that allows you to feel
deeply seen, supported and cared for.
Her intuition and empathy shine through in every interaction.
With her, I feel wholeheartedly rooted for." Mo

Our sessions are shaped uniquely by and specific to you

Our work together is catered to you. I will take your lead to support you in cultivating more awareness, safety, authenticity, compassion and understanding with yourself and in your relationships. All people and relationship statuses - single, partnered, dating - are welcome.

Offerings

Sessions for Individuals

$80

Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or single and processing your relationship past and future, we can work together to address your biggest questions, clarify areas of confusion, and explore the depths of you so that you can conduct your relationships (including the one with yourself) from a more empowered, self-loving place.
1 hour

  • Book 4 sessions and the price of each session drops to $70 for a total of $280

Couple's Sessions

$122

I will offer compassionate and respectful reflections, treating your relationship as a third entity - highlighting its strengths while supporting its pain points. We will honor each individual's autonomy, while creating a solid foundation for beneficial connection.
1 hour

  • Book 4 sessions and your price drops to $115 per session for a total of $460

Sessions specifically for Men

$80

Many heterosexual men are either feeling deeply misunderstood and/or frustrated by not knowing how to identify and do something about what is expected of them. I see that a lot of men WANT to give, but are losing momentum because they may feel shamed and dismissed, unappreciated, or are confused. I would be honored to connect with you, as a woman, to guide you and give you experiential practice of how to navigate men-women relationships.
1 hour

  • Book 4 sessions and the price of each session drops to $70 for a total of $280

Sessions specifically for the Anxious Lover

$80

People who lean anxious in their relationships have HUGE hearts! I personally know the intensity and often agony, of how anxious attachment feels when dating and in relationship. Our goal in working together will not be to "get rid of" it, but rather learn as much as possible about how it presents, and then how to manage it with gentle compassion and more wisdom. Our goal is to make sure anxiety isn't hijacking the connection you really want. We will also identify core needs and desires so you can claim who you are, and practice doing so within a container of direct, boundaried and grounded communication.
1 hour

  • Book 4 sessions and the price of each session drops to $70 for a total of $280

Human Design Individual Recording

$65 SALE $35

Human Design is a system based on your birth time, date and place that gives you a blueprint of how you are designed to operate in this world. It can be a validating and empowering tool to help understand why you experience life the way you do, how to find more ease, and how to work with patterns you may experience in interactions with others. From there, you can make more informed decisions. This will be a recorded reading (approximately one hour) about general aspects of your individual chart and how they apply to relationships.
IMPORTANT! After payment, please email your Name, Birth Date (month/day/year), Birth Time (hour:minutes and AM/PM), and Birth Place (Town, State, Country). I will respond to your email with your recording within 5 business days.

Human Design Synastry Recording

$75 SALE $45

Human Design is a system based on your birth time, date and place that gives you a blueprint of how you are designed to operate in this world. This will be a recorded reading (approximately one hour) detailing the interactions of two people's charts and how the dynamics present in their relationship. This information can shed light on patterns between you, making what may feel personal, more objective. You will also discover the strengths in the relationship, the stability to return to during challenges. You'll reach better understanding of who each other are, improving communication and deepening your bond.
IMPORTANT! After payment, email me your Name, Birth Date (month/day/year), Birth Time (hour:minutes and AM/PM), and Birth Place (Town, State, Country). I will respond to your email with your recording within 5 business days.

About Me

I believe many of us are longing to move from unconscious pain and fear, to more awareness and nourishing connection. I have a BA in Social Work, and am a Somatica® trained coach from the Somatica Institute for Intimacy and Relationship Coaching. I am also a Certified Human Design Reader, trained in Human Garage fascial maneuvers (humangarage.net), and have taken classes in holistic nutrition.My most profound and effective training, however, has been my own relationships and life experiences.I unexpectedly became a mother in my early 20's. I was confronted with taking care of a child while still forming my adult self, and in a relationship that had a big, gaping hole that I didn't know exactly what it was or how to address. I felt profoundly alone and confused. By the time my daughter was two, the substance addiction plaguing our relationship was identified. I knew she needed healthy parents apart more than she needed us unhealthily together. Co-parenting when pain was still present was an arduous journey, as was trying to establish my sense of self, career and being present to my sweet daughter.I battled depression and anxiety the next 15 years, while mostly unconsciously playing out my painful patterns of anxious attachment and codependency in romantic relationships. I wandered down the path again of being with people struggling with addictions, experiencing emotional and verbal abuse, and involved with many partners who weren't, for one reason or another, committing to the relationship. I chased the connection I was seeking with the people hardest to get it from, because then I could prove to myself I was, in fact, worthy of love. I did matter.Throughout that time period, I was also discovering my inner world in all of its difficulty and beauty. I started to connect more with the truth of me, and see the connection we all have to each other. I didn't want to keep identifying with being victim to my circumstances - I wanted to be the creator we all are. I didn't want to see my previous partners as "bad" but that they were experiencing disconnection, too.My passion now is to work with people who are learning how to be more connected with and understanding of themselves and others. I am on the journey of self-discovery constantly. We're always doing our best; and bringing more awareness to "our best" can change our relationships, and thus the world.

"Sitting down doing the exercise like we did and you experiencing what I experienced.. that connection… I’m grateful for that because it showed me what I do want. I appreciate your time, your help; it was great because it released a lot of stuck energy. Thank you so much." John

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